I often get asked to speak with people’s pets in the last few days of their lives
The reasons are many. Some people want to know if their beloved pet is in pain. Others want to know if they are afraid to die. Some just want me to tell them how sorry they are that they will soon have to make that difficult decision. And some people want to know if their pet has any last wishes.
When I first started speaking with animals I found these conversations to be the most difficult because the emotions touched me so deeply and I would feel so sad. But the various animals I’ve spoken to over the years have explained to me that they see things differently from us.
For one thing, even if there is pain, as long as it’s manageable they just put up with it, much like we do ourselves.
Some of them don’t want to leave their families but I haven’t spoken with a single animal that was afraid to die. They know that they have been here before and will be here again. Death to them is like stepping through a doorway.
We find ourselves riddled with guilt over whether we made the decision to call the vet too early or too late, yet every pet I’ve asked has said that the decision is always made at the right time – always.
Speaking with pets at the end of their lives is a privilege and, despite the inevitable sadness that I feel, is also a blessing.
I am not afraid to die.
They’ve taught me I don’t need to be. I’m no longer afraid to make that difficult decision for one of our beloved dogs. I know that whenever we do it that will be the right time.
Some have very clear last wishes and having the ability to express those wishes to their families brings them great comfort. I’ve spoken with dogs who wanted a last meal with their family, or have wanted to be outside under their favourite tree when the vet is called. Some don’t want the vet, preferring to pass naturally. I’ve spoken with cats who want to be cuddled as they pass and to dogs who want a party with party hats and cake, and all their friends over to say goodbye. Others only want what will bring the most comfort to their families, whatever that might be.
